My struggle with a gratitude journal is continuing into 2019. My post from last August chronicles that journey and you can read it here. Let me tell you, it isn’t pretty…sigh…
Oh, I started 2019 with the best of intentions and a sparkling new purple journal with dot grids on every page. But I had the same struggle as before. What was I truly grateful for on that day? Hot water in shower? Yes, but I’m grateful for that every day. What made it special THAT day?
So I’m trying something new, to “get out of my head”. I’m calling it a Happiness Journal.
It’s a subtle difference, but for the last week, it’s made all the difference.
I write down what made me happy that day. Or an inspiring quote with a note about what made it inspiring to me that day.
I can write a sentence. I can write a paragraph. Even a bulletized list, if I’m feeling all crazy.
And those dots, they mean I can even DRAW STRAIGHT LINES if my inner creative goddess is calling. Of course, a few colored G2 pens helps the creativity flow better.
Not every day is all sunshine and roses, either.
Last week I wrote that it made me happy to finish a white paper for my boss.
Let me tell you, writing a white paper is not usually gratitude or happiness worthy.
But finishing it certainly was happiness worthy!
Happiness and Leadership
So what does happiness have to do with leadership?
Well, I think that if we start recognizing the little things that make us happy, we become more conscious of the little things in general.
And being more conscious of the little things, makes us more conscious of how those little things add up the big things over time.
For example, I am very self-aware that I don’t like conflict. My go-to is to accommodate rather than enter conflict. And if I can’t accommodate, I avoid.
Serves me well sometimes, but not when it comes to an employee performance issue.
So I have to consciously gear up for what I consider a “difficult conversation”.
When I have that talk, I always feel better, and usually my employee feels better too because we cleared the air.
I can write in my Happiness Journal “talked to XXX and worked out our differences”.
It’s a little thing, but the more I practice dealing with conflict, the better leader I am in the long run.
If dealing with little conflicts makes me happy each time, then being a conflict-savvy leader can make me super-happy one day!
If you’ve been struggling with gratitude, maybe starting with happiness will help you, too.
Leadership starts with you and a happier you is sure to be a better leader!
Leaving you with this from the lighter side: “Pew! Pew! Pew!” That’s the sound of me deflecting your complaints with my happiness shield!