I have HUGE news to share with my readers today!
I am so very excited; my daughter just got accepted into Oxford University!
Wow! Just Wow! One of the most prestigious schools in the world. My baby girl…wow!
You may be asking yourself, “What does this have to do with trust and competence?”
More than you think.
In my first two posts on trust, I talked about the character side, comprised of integrity and intent.
Today, we turn to the competence side, where it’s all about your capabilities and results.
Capability is our capacity to achieve results using our talents, attitudes, skills, knowledge and style.
In the book, Leading at the Speed of Trust, Covey lists three ways to build your capabilities:
Find Your Strengths – Figure out your natural talents and gifts and don’t be surprised if this is hard. After all, these things come so naturally to you that you probably believe everyone can do them easily.
Keep Yourself Relevant – Match your strengths to opportunities. Where can you make a unique, high-value contribution?
Know Where You Are Going – Be specific with your distinctive contribution and keep the vision of it before you.
By age 14, we knew my daughter was a gifted writer. She was good at it AND she loved to do it. In high school, she enjoyed her history classes, which made her love to visit museums and SEE the tangible evidence of history. So she studied Anthropology and History at college. She studied the theories in the classroom, but she kept relevant by doing internships at museums and a cultural anthropology internship. She also worked as a Writing Consultant on campus, to keep her writing skills top notch. But most importantly in my eyes, is that she set the goal to become a museum curator in high school and kept that vision before her.
She has the capabilities nailed.
The other piece of competence is results.
Results matter. They are an enormous part of your credibility because people are always evaluating you on what you get done!
People look at your past and current performance to anticipate your future performance. So how do you improve the results you are getting?
Take Responsibility for Results – Adopt a mindset of results, instead of “activities”. Ask yourself “Will what I’m doing now lead to the results I want, or am I just staying busy?”
Expect to Win – Openly express confidence in yourself and others. What does winning consist of for you? Create a climate of high expectations.
Finish Strong – Don’t subscribe to the culture of quitting when it gets hard. Tenacity matters. If it’s important to you, stay strong to the end, because that’s when everything is on the line.
With her dream to become a curator in front of her, EVERYTHING she did in college was to help her reach that goal. She even realized that there aren’t many curator jobs out there, let alone well-paying curator jobs. So she knew she’d have to be the best student, to get into the best Master’s program, to land the best job. Although not an initial goal, she achieved a 4.0 her freshman year and liked that feeling. THAT would help her get where she wanted to go, so after freshman year, she expected to get a 4.0 every semester. And she did it. It wasn’t easy. In fact, some semesters, she wanted to rip out her hair. But she’s finishing strong; she’s being tenacious.
She established a reputation for fantastic work and she has the track record to prove it.
So she nailed the capabilities, she nailed the results. I can’t help but to trust that she will nail Oxford, too.
Leaving you with this from the lighter side: I wish I could think of something, but I can’t because…well…freakin’ Oxford! :o)