I used to work with someone I just didn’t “like”. Let’s call him John.
John and I got along professionally, but there was something “off” in the relationship and I had a hard time pinpointing what it was.
Then I realized that I really didn’t trust John. I mean, he did his job with reasonable quality, but I still didn’t “like” him.
In the post “In God We Trust – But Who Else?” I talked about the importance of trust.
If you ask the average person, “Are you trustworthy?” they will quickly say “Of course I am!”
We all think we are trustworthy, but what does that really mean?
In his book, Leading at the Speed of Trust, Stephen M.R. Covey posits that trustworthiness is a combination of a person’s Character and Competence.
A-HA! That was the problem! I trusted John for his competence, but I didn’t trust his character!
So the obvious question is, what is character?
Covey says that a person’s character is a combination of integrity and intent.
I don’t believe it was John’s intent to make me not like him, so I turned to integrity, and this is what I found.
Covey defines integrity as deep honesty and truthfulness. It is who we really are. It encompasses living in harmony with our deepest values and beliefs, standing firmly for principles in the face of opposition, and doing the right thing – even when it’s hard.
Hmmmm, that sounds hard…how do you tackle something as fundamental as improving your integrity?
Well, Leading at the Speed of Trust gives these tips.
Make and keep commitments to yourself as you would with any other important person in your life
Stand for something. Think about it, write it down and then live by it
Be open and challenge the way you see the world. Ask yourself if your viewpoint is totally accurate or if you have seriously considered other viewpoints