A lot of people don’t think about self care until some sort of crisis forces them to take a good hard look.
A model I use in my coaching is called the Whole Person Paradigm, andsays that for appropriate self care, we need to look at ourselves in four dimensions: Mind, Heart, Body and Spirit.
Self Care – Mind
Henry Ford said “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”
Taking care of our mind fulfills the human need to learn. A lot of us are very busy at work, yet if our work becomes routine, our minds don’t get challenged regularly.
There are many ways to keep learning and growing at work, and an article in The Muse recommends these 5:
- Enroll in your company’s university
- Take advantage of tuition reimbursement programs
- Earn a MOOC (Massive Open Online Courses) certification
- Join a professional organization
- Switch teams temporarily
If work challenges you to grow regularly, what are you doing in your personal life to keep your mind active?
Lifehack offers the following suggestions with links to apps that can help:
- Learn a foreign language
- Build your vocabulary
- Take free online courses
- Start a side business
- Learn to play an instrument
Self Care – Body
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live” Jim Rohn
The Tiny Buddha recommends that we look at body care holistically. They list 5 things that we can do for our bodies – especially when things are getting tough:
- Take time to exercise. Here are 25 ways to fit in 10 minutes of exercise.
- Make sleep a priority. This article in the Huffington Post can help you set four goals to make sleep a priority.
- Eat well and savor it. Here’s some ways to enjoy the food you eat more.
- Listen to pain. When something hurts, something somewhere is wrong and your body is trying to tell you. Pay attention!
- Slow down. This is the eighth installment of my Ease the Overwhelm series. There’s a reason why this series called me. Everyone I talk to is overwhelmed by all the things they “have” to do!
Self Care – Heart
According to Covey, the heart is your need to love and be loved, or have good social and emotional health.
The benefits to social connection are tangible. Mortality rates, incidents of terminal cancer, and mental health issues are all lower with socially supported people.
Health Place recommends practicing these skills to foster closeness with others:
- Be yourself
- Communicate better
- Resolve conflicts
- Reciprocate feelings, interests and needs
- Enjoy each other
Self Care – Spirit
Spiritual health can be religious based, but it can also be connection to any higher purpose.
People want to contribute and each person’s contribution is different.
For example, one of my values is connection to the planet. This drives me to have many house plants, have vacation property in the woods, and garden organically, among other things. I find it fulfills a spiritual need in me to be out in nature and to take care of animals.
Everyone gets to decide what fills their spiritual cup. It can be meditation and prayer. It can be a quiet walk through the forest or along the water’s edge.
Whatever it is for you, take time to do it often. Not just once or twice a year, but once or twice a week..
In conclusion, what one area are you going to focus on and what one thing in that area are you going to do this week?
Leaving you with this from the lighter side: “Sweatpants and coffee are like a lovely daily reminder that self-care is important.” Nanes Hoffman